There are a zillion things going against making this site a non-depressing place. But here are the top few:
This is a secular site so our goal is to be about Christianity not Christianity itself.
We don't allow pastoral advice so we all come off like resounding gongs.
Affable Geek, our top-most reputation earner (and distinguished kind person) died a few ...
I hear what you're saying and get where you're coming from. Most people who stumble across this site at first mistake it for something it's not. it was frequent enough back when I was an active participant that I wrote this post to try to help others understand:
What Christianity.StackExchange is (and more importantly, what it isn't)
The short version ...