Zanlock, a community member who has been around for a long time, has accused me of violating COC and being impolite when I asked this question. Can anyone give a 3rd party view on how this question may be impolite (if it is) and what I can do to rectify it?
I deleted those comments, it wasn't clear to me how any of the comments were attempting to help improve your post.
COC violations ideally get flagged and handled by moderators and/or community managers.
I am gonna take it out of the Hot Network Questions list. It's a good question, but as a moderator, I'd prefer not to advertise these kinds of questions. I think the site's better served by the regulars answering your question than people popping in to talk about what constitutes racism.
If the average person with little Biblical knowledge looked at certain things in the Bible or other Christian texts, we would expect them to label them as 'racist', 'sexist', etc. Prohibiting racial intermarriage is far from the only example, and Christians of all sorts would be used to getting questions on these topics. As long as the question is broadly respectful and seeks to give the denomination a chance to explain how their position or reading of the Bible shouldn't be seen as offensive, then I think it's fine. We'll deal differently with questions that look like they were asked in bad faith, but the question that started this discussion is fine.
One possibility is the use of the word "racist", which apparently means something different from what you and I thought it meant.
"Racist" has come to be closely related to "systemic racism", and applying it to other situations is now considered inappropriate or even racist. In today's world, while anyone can be biased, racially prejudiced, etc., only white people can be racist.
That's not simply my white paranoia showing, it's become official policy in surprising places, Government of Canada Anti-Racism Training Documents | PDF for instance.
One section lists "Myths and Facts":
- Myth #1 — Reverse racism exists, BIPOC can be racist towards white people.
That is, it is not true that non-whites can be racist towards white people. By definition it isn't possible.
Please always remember to be politically correct and to accept whatever the bullies tell you.
Calling out a major religious organization of the world "racist" is offensive. How could it not be?
There is a claim in the attendant comments of that question that the Code of Conduct was read. The entire spirit of that code isn't being respected. It hardly seems appropriate to require others to explain to a user with over 1k reputation how to adequately interpret that policy for this community.
This Code of Conduct helps us build a community that is rooted in kindness, collaboration, and mutual respect.
There are many examples that show a friendly post and an unfriendly post. It doesn't seem the OP is willing to accept any reasonable criticism about what would be a friendlier tone.
What can be done to make the question more friendly? That is a better question, and that's something that was attempted previously in the comments.
- The #1 suggestion so far has been to simply select a word other than "racist" which is heavily charged right now. Seems easy enough. Why that course wasn't taken remains a mystery. Unless of course there is an unfriendly agenda at work.
- Another suggestion is to refer to the proper name of the church in the question. If my assumption is correct about which church, that name has been official since 1938 and is "The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints".
- A final suggestion when asking questions and honorably striving to maintain a friendly tone, is to not insist on the last word in the comments. No one edited your question, the friendly thing to do is to adjust it yourself. The appearance thus far to any others outside of the discussion would be to confirm it seems an unfriendly tone.